1. Come up with an idea.  Don’t turn any idea you got away, for this is brainstorming.  Maybe you can use one the other ideas in the current idea of the book.   
2. Tell someone else your idea.  You don’t want to be totally into the story and then find out the whole thing don’t make sense. 
3. For me but maybe different for other authors, I create my characters.  The names which can always be changed and what they look like
   1. To go with the names and description, I type sort of a bio in the description. 
   2. I then make pictures in adobe photo shop but the free version Gimp will work also of what the character will look like.  After I made the pictures though I create a background on my desktop so I keep focused.
4. Then I make and outline and do research at the same time.  I have a busy life and won’t remember half the stuff I looked up.
   1. The outline though will be the bare minimum.  I learned that over doing an outline took my spark right out of writing.
   2. Make sure you spend time on the outline, and don’t be afraid to go back and change it.
   3. I have a pin board and hopefully soon a whiteboard where all my outlines, characters and other useful materials get pinned and taped too.  Only the current WIP in the writing process goes up there though.
5. Now write.  Write in intervals with goals if you need it.  I prefer sitting on my screen with the program darkroom where I can’t see anything else.  If you are having trouble put something inspirational on.  First try with just something in the background and if that fails watch something or go to a workshop.  I talk to authors online, and they know I talk a lot.
   1. WRITE FAST. Write the manuscript as fast as you can, when you edit it yourself that is where you can add and take out things.  If you change a name or a theme don’t stop and go fix it now.  That is the next step. (do however use the new name right away, otherwise you might get the dreaded writers block)
6. Finish the book and say well done, and start to edit it.
   1. Editing for me comes in the form of me doing the first round, a close friend that is becoming an editor secondly and then readers to tell me what to change, then I will send it on to an agent.
   2. While I am editing though so I can start my next WIP.  I will start this process over again with the next book.

This is my own way of writing it might work for you, and it might now.  I have learned there is no right way for you to get your muse speaking.  There are many different ways to achieve it and guess what; you can do it your way.

 What makes an author unique is not coping others but doing something your own way.  Look at the biggest movie series out there now and book series and don’t yell at me for saying this but the Twilight saga is probably the most popular.   She didn’t copy anybodies stuff, her vampires are day walkers and they don’t just consume human blood.  They stay up all night and don’t sleep.  All the vampires I knew until then didn’t do that.  She stepped outside of the box.  That is what you have to do with your book, with your writing style, with your life. 

The biggest thing I have learned taking on this new journey of writing is creativity, passion, and the true meaning of being cursed (cursed because you can’t stop once you started).  There is so many different ways to write and for someone to write a book take true guts.  I thought it would be easier then learning to drive, but I was wrong.  Writing takes something out of you, and shows the whole world what you are and this makes us all AUTHORS.

What have you learned from writing?  Do you write books a different way?  Tell us let us know for we all need help.

            So, I chose a random book out of my collection that I need to read yet and came up with Candace Havens, Take Me If You Dare.  I just read the scene where they did very hardcore four-play.  I noticed that she uses very seductive words, for example she uses the word growl, and I mean how many women love to hear their man growl their name in the bed.  Of course I am a male writing this, so I totally am out of my bubble when talking about these kinds of scenes.  I also noticed that she didn’t focus on just one of the characters; she bounces from the two and had you knowing exactly how it felt to each individual involved.

            Also, in a sex scene you have to be very thorough in description.  For some reason when it comes to these lovely scenes, the reader needs to be able to imagine an almost identical image to the one that the writer is thinking about.  Other areas of the book may get a little vague in details so the reader can be creative themselves, but when it comes down to the hard, vibrant, pulsing scenes that draw readers in, you need to be precise.  For example, from Take Me If You Dare, Candace Havens wrote, “As he moved his hand over her breast, his other slid down lower to the triangle of cloth between hew legs.  The first touch in the folds of softness sent her body pressing into his.”  The way she described it, even if it was hard and intense, she spoke softly in the description.  There was no grasping or crying in pleasure, the female character just reacts by pressing herself into the male character. That reaction showed the readers how good and intense the sensation felt. 

            To me the sex scenes need to be more descriptive then verbal.  I mean how do you like a scene where the characters said “O baby, that’s the spot.”  He fingered deeper. “Right there baby.”  There is no depth in that.  Here is what I think, maybe instead of being so verbal; the scene could be more like this. Please remember that this is purely from a male perspective. 

She moaned in pleasure, thrusting more and more onto her lover’s fingers.  She felt the pressure building and felt in total lost.   Her cries continued to grow when he whispered to her making his lips vibrate on her clit.  She needed the release; she wanted to remember the pure joy of the act.  She thrusted again this time, feeling her own wetness on his fingers and tongue. 

            I am a beginning writer, and to create these kinds of scenes is probably the most difficult for me to do. Basically, I am trying to find ways to make my love scenes into the scenes you don’t forget about.  The ones that make you drool want to find your lover.  Those are the scenes that make “a book” into “The book.”

I also want to remind you that yes I am a male writer, and my editor, even for these blogs, is a woman, so maybe my scenes won’t end up so male oriented after all.  So why don’t you help me and other writers by telling us how do you spice up the book?